Method of Preventing and Treating Emotional and Behavioral Problems

ABSTRACT

The method enables individuals to monitor their state based on a five-point stress-reward scale, use the intrapsychic tool that corresponds with that state and continue that process of monitoring, identifying and using until they attain the state of lowest stress and greatest reward or until they accept the other state they are in. That acceptance can trigger them to attain the state of lowest stress and greatest reward. They do this 10 or more times per day. The process triggers immediate improvements in emotional and behavioral regulation that are short lived as this regulation is affected by neural circuitry. The intensive use of the system over time changes the neural circuitry so that attaining the state of lowest stress and greatest reward occurs spontaneously, more frequently and more easily. This brain retraining supports long-term improvements in emotional and behavioral regulation, and ultimately, health and happiness.

CROSS-REFERENCE TO RELATED APPLICATIONS

This application claims the content, benefit and priority of U.S.provisional patent application No. 60/955,313 filed on Aug. 10, 2007 andentitled, “Method of Preventing and Treating Emotional and BehavioralProblems” the contents of which are incorporated herein by reference.

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BACKGROUND OF THE INVENTION

(1) Field of the Invention

Generally, the invention relates to means and methods of preventing andtreating a broad range of emotional and behavioral problems that impacthealth in humans. More particularly, the invention relates to a five orso point system of measuring and regulating states of stress and relatedemotional and behavioral patterns. The invention relates to ways ofpreventing or treating emotional problems, such as depression andanxiety, behavioral problems such as overeating and inactivity andhealth problems, such as obesity and hypertension for which a patient'semotional state and behavioral practices are contributing orexacerbating factors.

(2) Description of the Related Art

Many attempts to monitor regulate, or change human behavior are known inthe related art. However, the related art fails to provide theadvantages of the present invention. Interventions or other methods inthe related art include cognitive-behavioral therapy, psychotherapy,meditation, hypnotherapy, environmental modification, medicalprocedures, drug therapies, 12-step programs and health education.Currently, all methods in the related art show limited long-termpost-treatment effectiveness and other shortfalls.

BRIEF SUMMARY OF THE INVENTION

The invention may be referred to as, and is “The 5-Point System ofEmotional and Behavioral Regulation”, “The Solution”, “The SolutionMethod”, the “method”, or the “present invention”.

The method involves taking specific acts repeatedly and frequently tomonitor and modify one's state of stress using a five point system. Thesystem classifies the continuum of stress states from homeostasis toallostasis into five states, with “1” indicating homeostasis and rewardand “5” indicating allostasis. The patient chooses to accept their stateor change their state. If they choose to change their state, then theyuse the specific tool that corresponds to their state.

Rather than focusing on their psychopathology, improving theirmaladaptive behaviors or their health problem directly, they focus onusing this method repeatedly to monitor and change their state todecrease the frequency and duration and allostasis and increase thefrequency and duration of homeostasis. Taking this action by using themethod results in improvement in emotional, behavioral and healthproblems.

The method involves specific tools and specific ways of using thosetools. The ways of using the tools is based on neuroplasticity, usingthe tools with the frequency, duration and intensity required for neuralretraining. The tools reflect emerging the emerging scientificliteratures on neuroscience (cognitive and emotional brain processing)and attachment theory.

Attachment theory has shown that a parent's repeated attunement to theinner state of the child during episodes of the whole range of statesand effectiveness in regulating those states is associated with positiveemotional, behavioral and health outcomes. Effective regulationincreases the frequency and duration of homeostasis. Homeostasissignifies the state of optimal or adaptive emotional, behavioral andphysiological functioning and is the object or goal of self-regulation.It decreases the frequency ad duration of allostasis.

Allostasis signifies the body's effort to maintain stability duringstress and signifies the state of sub-optimal or maladaptive emotional,behavioral and physiological functioning. Allostasis is adaptive whenexperienced in response to acute threats (“acute stress”) to survival,but is maladaptive when it represents a chronic state (“chronic stress”)and/or an amplification of stress that is inconsistent with the acutethreat to survival.

I drew upon attachment theory in the development of these tools as thescientific literature linking secure attachment/parental attunement andimproved health outcomes is substantial. Also, developing tools thatapproximate parent-child attunement is consistent with the evolution.The capacity of the parent to effectively and consistently regulate andmodify the state of the child is associated with survival and it wouldmake sense that natural selection would favor a process that was mosteffective in promoting resiliency and homeostatic states.

Effective parental regulation of state in childhood is predictive ofeffective self-regulation of state in adulthood. Emotionalself-regulation is related to behavioral regulation and both are relatedto health status

The patient's use of the tools replicate parental attunement. The skillsare used frequently to monitor the patient's state much like thefrequent monitoring of a child's state by an attuned parent. The fivetools were developed based on emerging understanding of cognitive andemotion processing of input by the brain in each of the five states toeffect an efficient and prompt return of the patient to homeostasis.

An object or goal of the invention is to be in the state of homeostasisand reward (“1”) as much of the time as possible by: 1) strengtheningthe neural circuits that favor that state and weakening those that favorthe four other states, 2) strengthening the neural networks that favorresilience (a rapid recovery from stress states), and 3) strengtheningthe neural networks that favor adaptive expectations and weakening thosethat favor maladaptive expectations. This is accomplished by using thedisclosed 5-point system, preferably at least 10 times daily.

The process of using The 5-Point System involves: 1) monitoring onesstate; 2) determining which of five states one is in; 3) determining ifthey will accept their state or change their state; 4) if determiningthe latter, using the tool that corresponds to that state; 5) monitoringones state again; and 6) repeatedly identifying the state and using thetools until in State #1 or in acceptance of State #2-#5. If their choiceat any point in the series of actions they take is to accept theirstate, that acceptance an improvement in state.

Each episode of the system or system use triggers beneficial effects tostress and related emotional and behavioral regulation. Each episodeweakens the neural networks that favor states #2 to #5 and strengthensthe neural networks of State #1. With the long-term use of the system,the dominant neural networks may favor State #1 and the frequency andduration of states #2 to #5 may decrease. By repeatedly changing theirstate, they may change their trait. The process may become integratedinto the neural circuitry and unconsciously used with conscious use ofthe tools occurring less frequently than when use of the method began.The goal is to promote persistent improvements in post-treatmentemotional and behavioral regulation, decreased symptoms of chronicstress including emotional, behavioral and physical problems.

The present invention overcomes shortfalls in the related art byoffering a treatment that retrains the brain to stay in a state thatimpacts a wide range of emotional, behavioral, relational and healthproblems. Current treatments tend to be symptom specific withdiscouraging post-treatment outcomes in that symptom or improvedoutcomes with symptom substitution (e.g., the smoker becomes theovereater). The proper use of the present invention results in tangiblephysical changes in patients including but not limited to, decreases inobesity, decreases in blood pressure, increases in physical fitness anddecreases in depression.

Current treatments in the related art are dependent upon ongoing therapyand different from the present invention and the disclosed method orsystem which is educational, training the individual to use the skillsto train his or her own brain.

Some current treatments for emotional and behavioral regulation involvedevices, drugs, and/or surgery. The disclosed method involves nodevices, drugs or surgery, is low cost, non-invasive and minimizes theuse of professional intervention. Self-study means of learning thesystem, such as workbooks, audio programming, books, Internet training,interactive Internet communities and self-help groups may be used. Groupprograms and individual coaching on this system is possible for thosewho have the resources to pay for them or whose behavioral or emotionalsymptoms post a significant medical risk.

These and other objects and advantages will be made apparent whenconsidering the following detailed specification when taken inconjunction with the drawings.

BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF THE DRAWINGS

FIG. 1 is a flow chart of a 5-point system consistent with theprinciples of the invention.

FIG. 2 is a summary of the disclosed tools or methods consistent withthe principles of the invention.

FIG. 3A and 3B comprise a summary form of one embodiment of theinvention suitable for flash card or portable form.

DETAILED DESCRIPTION OF THE INVENTION

In the following description, for purposes of explanation, numerousspecific details are set forth in order to provide a thoroughunderstanding of the invention. It will be apparent, however, to oneskilled in the art that the invention can be practiced without thesespecific details. In other instances, structures and devices are shownin block diagram form in order to avoid obscuring the invention.

The reference in the specification to “one embodiment” or “anembodiment” means that a particular feature, structure, orcharacteristic described in connection with the embodiment is includedin at least one embodiment of the invention. The appearances of thephrase “in one embodiment” in various places in the specification arenot necessarily all referring to the same embodiment nor are separatealternative embodiments mutually exclusive of other embodiments.

In the following detailed description of embodiments of the invention,reference is made to the accompanying drawings in which like referencesindicate similar elements, and in which is shown by way of illustrationspecific embodiments in which the invention may be practiced. Theseembodiments are described in sufficient detail to enable those skilledin the art to practice the invention, and it is to be understood thatother embodiments may be utilized and that logical, mechanical,electrical, functional, and other changes may be made without departingfrom the scope of the present invention. The flowing detaileddescription is, therefore, not to be taken in a limiting sense, and thescope of the present invention is defined only by the appended claims.

The description, which follows, and the embodiments described therein,are provided by way of illustration of an example, or examples ofparticular embodiments of the principles of the present invention. Theseexamples are provided for the purposes of explanation, and not oflimitation, of those principles of the invention. In the description,which follows, like parts are marked throughout the specification andthe drawings with the same respective reference numerals. The drawingsare not necessarily to scale and in some instances proportions may havebeen exaggerated in order to more clearly depict certain features of theinvention.

Referring to FIG. 1, individuals monitor their state and determine whichof five states they are in, and use the tool that corresponds to thatstate. Then they monitor their state again. If they are at “State #1”,no further use of the system is needed during that episode. If they areat “State #2” to “State #5”, they repeat the same process, using thecorresponding tool until they are at “1” or they feel acceptance of thestate they are in. That feeling of acceptance triggers them to State #1.They do this at least 10 times per day until it becomes automatic tomonitor and stay in State #1 most of the time.

This method, developmental skills training (DST), has been applied forchildhood obesity as The Shapedown Program® and for adult stress-relatedemotional and behavioral problems as The Solution® and The SolutionMethod™. I developed the method and authored all the workbooks, audioprogramming, website designs, professional training, videotapes andother educational material based on the method.

Previous to this application, a prior method of the inventor wascomprised of nurturing skills (How do I feel? What do I need? Do I needsupport), limit-setting skills (Are my expectations reasonable? Is mythinking positive and powerful? What is the consequence of followingthrough? What is the reward?) and related skills including skills forlifestyle change, effective health care and interpersonal training.

The aim of the prior method was for participants to be “in balance” moreof the time as the state of being “out of balance” promoted emotionaland behavioral dysregulation. The work called that being “above theline” or “below the line.” When individuals were above the line, theywould use the nurturing skills and when they were below the line, theywould use a cycle, a skill that is the combination of nurturing andlimit-setting. Recently, I added a skill involving expressing the eightbasic positive and negative feelings to be used when they were neitherclearly in balance or out of balance. They would use these skills withan unspecified frequency.

This intervention was beneficial, however, given the science on bothneuroplasticity and attachment theory, it was clear to me that a newmethod would be needed that would provide for intensive, frequentmonitoring to change ones state, a system of identifying stress leveland tools that corresponded to each stress level that reflected secureattachment.

However, even this method that was not reflective of the emergingscience and did not offer the above characteristics has shown remarkableeffectiveness. However, the problems that the method targets areconsidered intractable and refractory. For example, even usingcomprehensive, expensive, and high-risk interventions for obesity,weight during post-treatment typically rebounds. Although the formermethod has shown improved outcomes compared to outcomes associated withtraditional therapies, I grew discontented with the effectiveness of themethod, because it was not based on the emerging science and becausethose who were attracted to the method tended to be very high riskemotionally, behaviorally and medically. It seemed very important todevelop a new method that would be consistent with an integration ofthese two literatures.

I became aware of emerging research that showed that behavioraldysregulation was often addictive, that the reward circuitry in thebrain was stimulated by various excesses and pleasure pathways becameless responsive to natural sources of pleasure.

The brain is reward driven and without a substitute pleasure fromnatural sources, cravings and appetites for common behavioral excesseswould be likely to continue. In my clinical evaluation of the programsparticipants, I concluded that many were not using the skills with therigor and vigor needed and that most were, at best, attaining “balance”but not high levels of natural rewards. Also, my evaluation showed thatwhen many participants were in the stress response, they were often in afull blown response and unable to use the nurturing and limits cycle.That resulted in a longer duration of the stress response.

In addition, I became aware of emerging research in neurophysiology thatsupported neuroplasticity and neurogenesis, the changing of the brainwith strengthening and weakening of existing neural networks andcreating new ones. Changing the brain took specificity, repeating thesame experiences, particularly when they were emotionally salient andvolitional. Without that highly specific and repetitive training, changewould be slow to occur and the beneficial outcomes would be more modest.A more intensive and directed method was needed as in response tostimulation, neural networks compete. In response to stimulation, neuralnetworks compete and the dominant ones fire. The more often they fire,the stronger the wiring becomes and the weaker the competing neuralnetworks become. The more often the dominant ones fire, the stronger thewiring becomes and the weaker the competing neural networks become,stimulating neurogenesis and the strengthening of existing neuralnetworks. An absence of this stimulation weakens existing neuralnetworks.

Last, as I tested this 5-point system, I became aware that participantsasked the questions in a depriving or neglectful way. Nurturing andlimits skills are meant to enable an individual to mirror a responsiveor authoritative parenting style, which includes loving observation.What's more, the emerging scientific literature on the neural networksof an insecure attachment having an important impact on stress made mebelieve that replicating and practicing a secure, loving attachment asone asks these questions would have efficacy. I developed another toolto systemize a process that mirrored the secure attachment to self,relaxing and lovingly observing themselves, prior to asking thequestions of the system. When used repeatedly this would be expected toretrain the brain to create a more secure connection to self.

From these understandings I conceptualized a new system that wouldprovide more structure and direction to give participants a way toeffectively retrain their brain for emotional and behavioral regulationthat involved:

1. Dividing the Allostasis—Homeostasis Continuum into Five States:

STATE SCIENTIFIC TERM EDUCATIONAL TERM State #1 homeostasis and rewardvery above the line State #2 homeostasis above the line State #3incipient allostasis on the line State #4 allostasis below the lineState #5 allostasis and distress very below the line

State #1 involves acute awareness of feelings, thoughts and sensationsand the experience of high levels of natural rewards. Drives for commonexcesses are absent. Mood regulation is high.

State #2 involves some awareness of feelings, thoughts and sensation anda feeling of balance, but not high levels of natural rewards. Drives forcommon excesses are low. Mood regulation is moderate.

State #3 involves higher levels of stress and awareness of feelings,thoughts and sensations are compromised. Drives for common excessesbegin to ramp up and mood regulation begin to suffer.

State #4 occurs when the brain perceives stress and triggers a stressresponse. Dysregulation of emotions and behavior follows. Drives forcommon excesses are high.

State #5 occurs when there is a full blow stress response, a flushing ofthe brain in which there are severe dysregulation of emotions andbehavior and feelings of being lost and disoriented. Drives for commonexcesses feel unstoppable.

2. Identifying a Tool for Each State.

STATE TOOL DESCRIPTION State #1 The Sanctuary Tool Strengthening SecurePositive Connections State #2 The Feelings Check Identifying Feelingsand Needs State #3 Emotional Housecleaning Expressing 8 Basic FeelingsState #4 A Cycle Expressing 4 Basic Feelings Constructing Adaptive LimitRepetition of New Adaptive Limit State #5 The Damage Control Calmingemotional crisis Tool Re-establishing Secure Connections

Tool Details

Tool #1 The Sanctuary Tool—requires participants to feel high levels ofnatural reward from feelings, thoughts, sensations, to be present in themoment, feeling securely connected to self and others.

Take deep breaths.

Assume “body above the line” (posture, movements and facial expressionof balanced and reward).

Observe yourself, in a loving manner.

Aware of a safe place inside body.

Bring up a nurturing inner voice.

Say to yourself the words you need to hear.

Send love to one other person.

Collect a Joy Point (a spike of neurotransmitters of pleasure)

State #2 The Feelings Check—enables participants to check theirfeelings, the immediate, accurate information that indicates theirneeds, to identify the corresponding need and to ask for support to meetthat need. To be sued in the state of 2.

Comprises the steps of asking:

How do I feel?

What do I need?

What do I really need?

State #3 Emotional Housecleaning—as stress mounts, the capacity to beaware of feelings diminishes or the feelings become unbalanced. Thistool increases awareness of feelings and has a balancing impact on them.Participants express the following feelings: anger, sadness, fear,guilt, gratitude, happiness, security and pride.

Emotional Housecleaning comprises the steps of expressing one or more ofeach of eight core feelings, wherein a feeling is associated with anevent, object, or other person, which may be defined as “x”. Forexample, Emotional Housecleaning may include making the followingstatements:

I feel angry that x

I feel sad that x.

I feel afraid that x.

I feel guilty that I x.

I feel grateful that x.

I feel secure that I.

I feel proud that I x.

State #4 A Cycle—during a stress response, a stronger tool is needed andthis skill replicates the process that is internalized with responsiveparenting. Participants state what they are upset about, express theiranger, sadness, fear and guilt. Awareness of those feelings increasesaccess to the implicit memory, the unconscious expectations that areimbedded in the neuronal circuitry from repeated and early experience.The participant identifies the unreasonable expectation that isamplifying the stress, replace it with a reasonable expectation, supportthat expectation with positive, powerful thoughts, then identify thedevelopmental lesson, the essential pain of following through with thatnew expectation and identify the reward of doing so. This creates arelief of pain and a surge of pleasure and some learning—the retrainingof the basic expectations of life. It has a maturing effect when usedover time, hence the term developmental skills training. The skillcontinues with checking one's needs and asking for support in order tofollow through with the new reasonable expectation. The tool concludeswith checking if one wants to strengthen the neural networks of the newexpectation, that is, to “grind in” the expectation by repeating it 10times, one to three times daily, for one week, then re-evaluating theneed to repeat the process for another week.

The Cycle Tool May Comprise the Steps of:

Stating or writing the thoughts about or the description of what one isdistressed about, a Thinking Journal.

The Natural Flow of Feelings: The statements of the first four feelingsof the Emotional Housecleaning tool.

Asking:

What is my unreasonable expectation?

What is my reasonable expectation?

Is my thinking positive and powerful?

What is the essential pain?

What is the earned reward?

What do I need?

Do I need support?

Asking:

What is my Grind-in?

The Grind-In statement is the reasonable expectation that replaces theunreasonable one that contributes to stress. Repeating that Grind-Instatement 10 times, one to three times daily for one week. Thenre-evaluating the need to repeat the process for another week.

State #5 The Damage Control Tool—when there is a flooding of the brainwith a stress response, feelings, thoughts and sensations are affected.In addition, since this is a survival response, connections change.Often participants feel lost, panicked, disconnected. This simpletool—repeating: Do not judge. Minimize harm. Know it will pass—enablesparticipants to stop the spiraling stress that is so destructive toemotional and behavioral regulation. Recommended to repeat it 10 times,then check in and assess state.

The Damage Control Tool Comprises the Steps of:

Stating:

-   -   Do Not Judge.    -   Minimize Harm.    -   Know It Will Pass.

3. Increasing Rigor

The use of the system must be rigorous. Instead of using tools to nospecific end other than “getting above the line” which for manyparticipants meant out of acute pain without accessing an abundance ofemotional rewards, the new directive is to “get to 1” Don't stopchecking in, identifying your state and using the corresponding tooluntil you are at “State #1” OR you feel accepting of the state you arein. That acceptance often triggers participants to be at “State #1.”

4. Increasing Vigor

The use of the system must be frequent to disrupt the automatic repeatedarousal of the dominant neural networks that favor emotional andbehavioral dysregulation. A minimum of 10 uses of the system per day isrecommended.

5. Improving Quality of Observation

By initiating a use of the skills by taking several deep breaths torelax and better access feelings and consciously observing oneself in aloving way the neural networks that favor the quality of therelationship with self ma begin to change. Instead of a depriving,neglectful or indulging relationship with self, an insecure ormaladaptive connection, a more secure connection is supported.

These scientific understandings in addictive behavior, attachment theoryand neurophysiology became apparent to me at the same time that I becamemore aware that the old method was not adequate to offer optimaltreatment for high-risk emotional and behavioral problems.

In 2007, 1 conceptualized and began experimenting with this new system.I was astonished by the findings and responses. Participants who hadstruggled with weight for decades and had tried everything, includingthe old system of the method, experienced remarkable results. Those whohad never been at “State #1” were using the system and attaining it.People who had had years of psychotherapy without any persistentimprovement in mood reported mood elevation. The degree to which theresults improved and the enthusiasm of our test population wereunexpected.

FIGS. 3A and 3B summarize a pocket reminder method which may comprisetwo sheets of paper or two sides of paper that contain an outline of oneembodiment or summary of the invention. Referring to FIG. 3A, emotionalstates 1 and 2 are above the line and emotional states 4 and 5 are belowthe line. ATL stands for “above the line” and BTL stands for “below theline. The five emotional states may be summarized as:

1. Feeling Great

2. Feeling Good

3. A Little Stressed

4. Definitely Stressed

5. Stressed Out !

The contents of FIG. 3A may be referred to as “Pocket Reminder Side 1”

Referring to FIG. 3B, which may be referred to as “Pocket Reminder Side2”, each emotional state of FIG. 3A is linked to a tool described orsummarized in FIG. 3B. The following mapping of emotional states totools and tool summaries may be used:

1. SanctuaryTool

-   -   -   Deep breath, Body ATL, Lovingly Observe Sanctuary Within,            Nurturing Inner Voice, Words I Most Need to Hear, Send Love            to One Person, Joy Point!

2. Feelings Check

-   -   How do I feel? What do I need? What do I really need?

3. Emotional Housecleaning

-   -   I feel angry . . . sad afraid . . . guilty.    -   I feel grateful . . . happy . . . secure . . . proud.

4. Cycle Tool

-   -   Just the facts, I feel angry . . . sad . . . afraid . . .        guilty.    -   Unreasonable/Reasonable Expectation?    -   PPT, Essential Pain? Earned Reward?    -   What do I need? Do I need support

5. Damage Control

-   -   Do Not Judge    -   Minimize Harm    -   Know It Will Pass

FIG. 2 is an alternative summary of one embodiment of the invention.Each of the five tools is summarized and instructions are given to checkone's emotional state ten times a day. The principles of one embodimentof my invention may be summarized as follows:

1. A method of changing behavior comprising the steps of:

-   -   a) evaluating state by taking deep breathings and lovingly        observing self;    -   b) assessing current state as in allostasis or homeostasis;    -   c) assigning an integer value between 1 and 5, to correspond to        the present state, wherein experiencing high intensity        homeostasis or joy is 1, high intensity stress or pain is 5 and        2,3, and 4 fall in between 1 and 5;    -   d) using the tool that corresponds to the current state with the        following mapping:

I. The Sanctuary Tool

II. Feeling Check

III. Emotional Housecleaning

IV. A Cycle

V. The Damage Control Tool

wherein each tool corresponds to certain procedures as follows:

i. The Sanctuary Tool

-   -   a) take 3 or more deep breaths;    -   b) assume body above the line;    -   c) lovingly observe yourself;    -   d) e aware of the safe place inside your body    -   e) summon or bring up a inner nurturing voice and say to        yourself the words that you most need to hear right now;    -   f) send love to one person;    -   g) collect a Joy Point.

ii. Feelings Check

-   -   a) ask yourself:        -   i. how do I feel?;        -   ii. what do I need?;        -   iii. what do I really need?

iii. Emotional Housecleaning

-   -   a) complete the questions:        -   i. I feel angry that . . .        -   ii. I feel sad that . . .        -   iii. I feel afraid that . . .        -   iv. I feel guilty that . . .        -   v. I feel grateful that . . .        -   vi. I feel happy that . . .        -   vii. I feel secure that . . .        -   viii. I feel proud that . . .

4. A Cycle

a) thinking journal;

-   -   b) completing the first four questions of Emotional        Housecleaning;    -   c) asking, what is my reasonable expectation?    -   d) asking, what is my unreasonable expectation?    -   e) asking, is my thinking positive and powerful?    -   f) asking, what is the essential pain?    -   g) asking, what is the earned reward?    -   h) asking, what do I need?    -   i) asking, do I need support?    -   j) asking, what is my Grind In?

5. The Damage Control Tool

a) state repeatedly:

-   -   Do not judge    -   Minimize harm;    -   Know it will pass.

1. A method of changing behavior comprising the steps of: a) evaluatingstate by taking deep breathings and lovingly observing self; b)assessing current state as in allostasis or homeostasis; c) assigning aninteger value between 1 and 5, to correspond to the present state,wherein experiencing high intensity homeostasis or joy is 1, highintensity stress or pain is 5 and 2,3, and 4 fall in between 1 and 5; d)using the tool that corresponds to the current state with the followingmapping: I. the sanctuary tool II. feeling check III. emotionalhousecleaning IV. the cycle tool V. the damage control tool wherein eachtool corresponds to certain procedures as follows: i. the sanctuarytool: a) take three or more deep breaths; b) assume body above a line;c) lovingly observe yourself; d) be aware of the sanctuary within; e)summon or bring up a inner nurturing voice and say to yourself the wordsthat you most need to hear right now; f) send love to one other person;g) collect a Joy Point (intentional surge of neurotransmitters) ii.feelings check a) ask yourself: how do I feel?; what do I need?; what doI really need? iii. emotional housecleaning a) complete the questions:i. I feel angry that . . . ii. I feel sad that . . . iii. I feel afraidthat . . . iv. I feel guilty that . . . v. I feel grateful that . . .vi. I feel happy that . . . vii. I feel secure that . . . viii. I feelproud that . . .
 4. the cycle tool: a) performing a thinking journal,wherein one states or writes their thoughts or a description of what oneis distressed about; b) completing the first four questions of emotionalhousecleaning; c) asking, what is my reasonable expectation? d) asking,what is my unreasonable expectation? e) asking, is my thinking positiveand powerful? f) asking, what is the essential pain? g) asking, what isthe earned reward? h) asking, what do I need? i) asking, do I needsupport?
 5. damage control tool: a) state: do not judge; minimize harm;and know it will pass.
 2. The method of claim 1 used for losing weightor decreasing depression.
 3. A method of treating behavioral problems,such as obesity and depression; the method comprising: a) monitoringones state; b) determining which of five states one is in, wherein thefive states are defined as:
 1. homeostasis and reward;
 2. homeostasis;3. incipient allostasis;
 4. allostassis;
 5. allostasis and distress; c)mapping or identifying a tool for each state as follows: 1) state 1(homeostasis and reward) maps to sanctuary tool; 2) state 2(homeostasis) maps to feeling check tool; 3) state 3 (incipientallostasis) maps to emotional housecleaning tool; 4) state 4(allostassis) maps to cycle tool; 5) state 5 (allostasis and distress)maps to damage control tool; d) performing the act or actions mapped toeach tool as follows: 1) sanctuary tool: take three or more deepbreaths; 2) feeling check tool: ask yourself, how do I feel ?; 3)emotional housecleaning tool: complete the following statement, I feelangry that . . . ; 4) cycle tool: complete the emotional housecleaningtool and then create a grind-in statement that is a reasonableexpectation to replace an unreasonable expectation that is causingstress, then repeat the grind in statement one or more times; 5) damagecontrol tool: say out loud, “do not judge”.
 4. The method of claim 3wherein the damage control tool prompts the user to state “do not judge,minimize harm, and know it will pass.”
 5. The method of claim 4 useduntil one is in state 1(homeostasis and reward).
 6. A method of treatingbehavioral problems, such as obesity and depression; the methodcomprising: a) checking one's emotional state 10 or more times per day;b) selecting one description of an emotional state, from the groupcomprising: i. feeling great; ii. feeling good; iii. a little stressed;iv. definitely stressed; v. stressed out; c) performing one or moreactions mapped to the emotional state selected, wherein each emotionalstate is assigned an action comprising: i. take a deep breath; ii. ask“what do I really need”; iii. complete the statement “I feel angrybecause . . . ”; iv. ask “do I need support”;or v. say “do not judge”.